The Opportunity of Saying No
There is always time to say yes
To change your mind,
Make space if you want.
The magic of no is this opportunity -
A hole of options
Allowed to exist without.
Time moves forward on a continual yes
Forcing your hand
Along the chronological escalator
But you can choose
To keep your space
Free from cluttered obligations,
Preconceptions, requests, needs of others.
Your no carries the bounty of your agency
Living amid the chaos you have survived.
The life well-tended to, a garden,
Watered with wet no’s
Enriching the flora of your dreams.
Grow your vines of consent up tall
Use their leaves to secure yourself in confidence
Attaching prickles to privacy in your domain.
This is your castle
Cherish it with the no’s of your convictions.
You reside in the home of your making
And you build its fence with your demeanor
Possibilities are yours to flourish
If only you’ll say no.
ethel khanis
Ethel Khanis has been a high school chemistry teacher, scientist, and is currently navigating the world of chronic illness through long covid. She strives to live in a world where care and consideration are indulged alongside breads and baked goods, and hate in all forms is challenged. This work comes out of wishing that the medical system utilized an automatic "opt in" format for all interactions rather than the assumed consent currently employed.